Thriving Through the Holidays

While writing about holiday shopping and homemade gifts is enjoyable, it's important to acknowledge that the holidays can be challenging for many.

You might be experiencing your first Holiday Season after losing someone dear, feeling lonely as families gather to celebrate traditions, or overwhelmed by the hustle and bustle of busy stores and extra noise.

If the holidays bring you significant stress, let’s explore how you can use the 7 C’s of Resilience to navigate the chaos and thrive this year.

Below is a list of suggestions—see which ones resonate with you and consider setting a few as goals.

Even implementing a few strategies can reduce stress and create space for happy memories to emerge unexpectedly.

1. Competence

This holiday season isn’t your first, and you've likely navigated easier times before.

For some, ordering gifts early and having them shipped can alleviate stress. Whether you prefer to wrap and deliver them yourself or have them sent directly, this approach simplifies gift-giving.

The same goes for meal planning—opt for easy and delicious options. Identify the aspects of the holidays that stress you the most and recall the strategies that have helped you in the past. Additionally, explore online resources for new ideas to ease holiday stress.

2. Confidence

Self-awareness enhances our understanding of ourselves, and confidence can take many forms.

For example, I know that crowded malls and last-minute errands stress me out. Recognizing this allows me to plan accordingly, such as shopping early or online to avoid the crowds.

In my last blog, I discussed exploring local shops as a way to reduce stress by starting early and incorporating outdoor breaks. Reflect on what you know about your stress triggers during the holidays and use that knowledge to manage them effectively.

3. Connection

The holiday season can be especially tough for those missing the connection of family and friends.

Whether it’s due to an impossible trip home or conflicting plans, the feeling of isolation can be overwhelming. Seeking connection might lead you to unexpected places.

For instance, a divorced friend volunteers at a local shelter on Christmas Day, while another group of friends gathers to prepare Christmas dinner. These non-traditional connections can provide meaningful support and combat loneliness.

4. Character

Our values ground us in daily life. To counterbalance the surrounding consumerism, seek opportunities to give to those less fortunate.

Whether it’s donating a shoebox filled with essentials for a child overseas, supporting a local business, or volunteering your time to help animals in need, these actions build resilience and foster hope in the world.

5. Contribution

Building on character, think about where you want to contribute this year. Giving to others often brings something valuable in return.

For example, volunteering to serve food to those in need allows you to engage meaningfully—whether it's refilling drinks, listening to stories, or offering a comforting hug. This mutual exchange enriches both the giver and the receiver, emphasizing that connection is a profound form of contribution.

6. Coping

Daily practices are essential for effective coping, especially during the busy holiday season.

Prioritize rest and recuperation by maintaining basic self-care—adequate sleep, hydration, and nutritious food.

If you’re working to overcome coping challenges, this period can be particularly demanding. Develop a plan tailored to your needs.

For instance, at a party where alcohol is present, feel empowered to sit out or attend late and leave early. People will notice your presence but not necessarily the duration.

Understanding your struggles and planning objectively can help you avoid self-judgment and the “I should be able to...” trap. Building effective coping strategies now provides a foundation for success in future years.

7. Control

Alongside coping, recognizing where you have control is crucial. It’s easy to feel trapped by circumstances, especially when well-meaning family and friends exert pressure.

Saying no for the first time or challenging traditions can be difficult, but remember that you have the agency to make decisions that best suit you.

Setting boundaries and prioritizing your well-being empowers you to navigate the holidays on your terms.

Thriving, Not Just Surviving

The key to thriving during the holiday season is to review your calendar, understand your needs, and create a plan that supports your well-being.

Thriving goes beyond mere survival—it involves intentional planning that fosters happiness and resilience. The holidays come around every year, and by making thoughtful choices now, you’re setting yourself up for greater well-being in the future.

In this way, we continue to build and strengthen our resilience, turning the holidays into a time of growth and joy rather than stress and overwhelm.